I have learned from my job that you can't make everyone happy. Sometimes, you have to allow someone to be upset with you in order to benefit the most people. With so many different residents to provide activities for, there is always times when someone is not going to like what you have planned. When it is someone who is very opinionated and vocal, it can be very disheartening and frustrating to hear complaints. There are times I have to remind residents I work with that there are other people in the building and we have to provide a variety of groups and services.
As with residents, there are times when I have to do something that makes my boys unhappy to make things better for the good of all. Once I became comfortable with the fact that there are times what I decide won't make some people happy, it became easier to make those decisions at home too. Sometimes, especially as a Mom, you have to be the bad guy.
This seems like an easy lesson, but for someone who likes to make people happy, and that essentially is my job, acquiring that thick skin took me a while.
Working full time in a nursing home and having my own young children is a an adventure everyday. The two generations are not so different, even if they are decades apart. Each day, with the beginning and the end of life, is one in which I discover my inner patience, (or lack there of), as well as my sense of humor.
Saturday, October 19, 2013
Monday, July 1, 2013
Savor it
With my boys, there are times when I just wish I could capture that moment and keep it to review later in the same crispness of the present time. Or to be able to visit that moment again. Looking back on when the boys were infants, I often think that I would love to go back to that time when they were itty-bitty, just for a day. It was crazy, sleep deprived and wonderful. But we can't revisit them. All we have are our memories of it. I know that many of the older people I work with at the nursing home, spend a lot of time remembering the past. I often think that I have to really focus to make those memories so that when I am old I can sit and think fondly of the things that happened in my life. There are times you have to think about the moment and focus on it, to make it into a memory. If we don't remind ourselves of the good times we may not remember them.
Memories are not made watching TV or playing on the computer. We make family memories from our experiences. Camping trips, playing in the rain, hiking etc, are all moments to remember. Both memories for us as parents, but also for the kids to look back on and think about the fun they had. Maybe when I am old and forgetful, they can visit me and remind me of those wonderful family experiences.
Memories are not made watching TV or playing on the computer. We make family memories from our experiences. Camping trips, playing in the rain, hiking etc, are all moments to remember. Both memories for us as parents, but also for the kids to look back on and think about the fun they had. Maybe when I am old and forgetful, they can visit me and remind me of those wonderful family experiences.
Sunday, May 26, 2013
Horrible news....
There have been a lot of horrific events on the news over the past year. I am thinking of Newton, and Boston and even the Oklahoma tornadoes. Television stations play the coverage of these events continuously. I find myself wanting to shield both my young children and the senior population from the endless barrage of bed news and terror. My children, we just don't watch the news at home, and we try to completely shield them from seeing any of it. The boys are young and can't understand, and question and worry and have bad dreams. The know there are bad guys in the world, but I don't want them to worry that someone will shoot them at school. They aren't looking at the world through rose colored glasses, but they don't need to be exposed to everything yet. There is plenty of time for that.
At work, some of the older people need to get away from all the negative drama. I often ask the staff to turn off the TVs whenever possible and not talk about it with or in front of our resident with dementia. These residents can not always distinguish between their own reality and what had happened elsewhere in the world. They may worry about their children and their safety. Other residents just need a break as well. Watching negative TV all day can be very depressing for anyone. We always encourage people to turn off the TV and to say a prayer for the people and for the helpers and first responders. We try to channel their worry into something positive. Its OK to encourage residents to turn off the TV and get out of their rooms. Plan a fund raiser to help. Anything to help them turn the negative into a positive for them and let them feel that they are somehow helping make things better. Because really, isn't that what we all want to do?
At work, some of the older people need to get away from all the negative drama. I often ask the staff to turn off the TVs whenever possible and not talk about it with or in front of our resident with dementia. These residents can not always distinguish between their own reality and what had happened elsewhere in the world. They may worry about their children and their safety. Other residents just need a break as well. Watching negative TV all day can be very depressing for anyone. We always encourage people to turn off the TV and to say a prayer for the people and for the helpers and first responders. We try to channel their worry into something positive. Its OK to encourage residents to turn off the TV and get out of their rooms. Plan a fund raiser to help. Anything to help them turn the negative into a positive for them and let them feel that they are somehow helping make things better. Because really, isn't that what we all want to do?
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